Or being an “enlightened witness” means your consciousness and compassion is able to be present for another, mentally and emotionally to listen to, be heard and felt. You are witnessing their value, worth and experiences by accepting them for who they are in that moment.
YOU need to sit with your own feelings, sensations and thoughts without blame, judgment, inserting you and your issues into the one you are holding space for, because that disrupts and shuts down the process, communication, trust and the sense that you care about them. When they’re done, repeat back what you heard to check that you both heard the same thing. Avoid minimizing, reframing or solving. You want to convey that you understand them, believe what they know and intuit.
SIDE BAR; When their focus is on their WOUND, blaming, judgment or an act of vengeance or gossip, they are most likely not interested in healing or transmuting. They are VENTING and most likely want you to be amazed at their degree of victimization or suffering, they want you to join them in their plans to blame and possibly get retribution. It would be wise to allow them their path without you.
ENLIGHTENED WITNESS
Alice Miller defines being an “enlightened witness” as one having knowledge and understanding of the realities of violence and injustice, and they are willing to talk about it, to break the silence and cycle of violence and injustice in their life and on this planet. An enlightened witness holds space and consciousness to help the victim recognize and OWN the violence and injustices they have suffered. To stop protecting, enabling and allowing predators to continue operating with impunity, exemption from punishment and freedom from the consequences of their criminal behaviors. To give vent to their victim’s feelings of rage, pain and indignation at being used and abused and powerless to prevent it or get help and support to stop it.
VIOLENCE and INJUSTICE is a FEEDBACK LOOP
A cycle of cause and effect, of getting back energy you put into play generally in previous incarnations that you still haven’t gathered the wisdom from YET, and/or you are “reaping what you sowed.”
UNRESOLVED issues, traumas, wounds, lies, anger, abuses and misinformation experienced in Gaia’s energy field stay within the grid of your aura until you consciously own and rebalance the energy by gathering the wisdom. YOU then have the GRACE to rebalance and release your unbalanced energy with your conscious compassion and acceptance of you, exactly as you are, without judgment blame or punishment.
PREDATOR, CONFUSED INNOCENT “in Denial” and VICTIM. All three of these thought patterns carry the SAME low resonance, vibration, intent in order to maintain the reality they have all agreed to exist in and maintain together. They need and reinforce each other’s perception and creation of their joint entrainment in their reality. These three keep incarnating with each other UNTIL one or all, raises their resonance into compassion for the self, to leave this dark cycle, WITHOUT drama, blame, judgement or punishment.
The enlightened witness digs around asking probing questions, trying to help these three understand their personal cycle or feedback loops. Exploring the causes and effects of their cruelty, violence and wounding experienced and delivered back and forth to each other. Knowing the cycle consciously gives one the power and choice!
To “play a better game of wounding each other.”
Or exit the victim, predator, confused innocent feedback loop.
Your higher self can be most helpful and informative, form and ask your questions, one clear simple question at a time. Ask for a slideshow or youtube of the original incident when you consciously chose to force, withhold from others, abuse or wound and abandon them. Ask the names of the other planets that your soul essence engaged in the victim, predator, confused innocent feedback loop.
SIDE BAR; many say, “others don’t listen to them.” BUT what they mean is that they want others to DO things the way they want it done. They don’t care or want to accept gracefully that the other person chooses NOT to do things their way.
Quantum Law of PENETRATION, deep listening or mindfulness says anything seen with great quality of attention and knowing creates compassion.
REALIZATION is a compassionate ACTION.
As you stay focused in the present, your electromagnetic energy field opens up to higher frequencies creating a synergistic interaction and cooperation of two or more consciousnesses. Synergies attract higher frequency energy, wisdom and compassion changing the energy signatures of all parties during their engagement with each other. Increasing the “Aha’s” or information and compassionate awareness and ACTION.
Dark One’s reality is being the victim, predator and confused innocent. Your soul essence is infinite so you know it will survive and can even thrive if things turn disagreeable when you take responsibility for you, instead of YOU TRYING to force the responsibility for you on other Dark One’s that WILL use, lie and abuse each other. That is the reality they choose. When you aren’t being compassionate with you that is the game you are playing.
YOU are your CREATOR!
Create your own grace with your compassionate point of perception, intent and thought patterns about you and for you.
Another can hold a safe space for you, without judgment, blame, shame, guilt, shunning, attachment, punishment, competition, worship, retribution, secrets or lies.
BUT CANNOT gift you with the compassion you NEED to gift yourself with.