Alice Miller defines being an “enlightened witness” as one having knowledge and understanding of the realities of violence and injustice, and the enlightened witness is willing to talk about it, to break the silence and cycle of violence and injustice in their life and all their previous incarnations, on this and other planets. An enlightened witness is conscious and holds a safe space to help the victim recognize and OWN the violence and injustices they have suffered and inflicted on others. To stop protecting, enabling and allowing predators to continue operating with impunity, exempt from punishment and freedom from the consequences of their criminal behaviors. To give vent to their victim’s feelings of rage, pain and indignation at being used and abused and powerless to prevent it or get help and support to stop it. The way an infant is powerless at the mercy of a mean spirited adult.
Being an “enlightened witness” means your consciousness and compassion is able to be consciously present for another mentally, emotionally and physically. For the victim to be heard and felt. You are witnessing their value, worth and experiences by accepting them for who they are in the now moment.
YOU need to sit with your own feelings, sensations and thoughts without blame, judgment, inserting you and your issues onto the one you are being an enlightened witness or holding space for, because that disrupts and shuts down the process of trust, communication and the sense that you care about them. When they’re done, repeat back what you heard to check that you both heard and understand the same things they conveyed. Avoid minimizing, reframing or solving. You want to convey that you believe what they know and intuit.
SIDE BAR; When their focus is on their WOUND, blaming, judgment or an act of vengeance or gossip, they are most likely not interested in healing or transmuting. They are VENTING and most likely want you to be amazed at their degree of victimization or suffering and would like you to join them in their plans to blame and possibly get retribution. It would be wise to allow them their path without you.
VIOLENCE, Abuse and INJUSTICE is a FEEDBACK LOOP
A cycle of cause and effect, of getting back energy you put into play, generally in previous incarnations that you still haven’t gathered the wisdom from YET, and you are “reaping what you sowed.”
UNRESOLVED issues, traumas, wounds, lies, anger, abuses and misinformation experienced in Gaia’s energy field remain in the individual’s multidimensional DNA and grid system until the soul consciously own’s and transmutes their dense thoughts NOT aligned with giving and receiving compassion and acceptance of the self, exactly as they are, without judgment blame or punishment.
PREDATOR, CONFUSED INNOCENT “in Denial” and VICTIM. All three of these thought patterns carry the SAME low resonance, vibration, intent in order to maintain the reality they have all agreed to exist in and maintain together. They need and reinforce each other’s perception and creation of their joint entrainment in their reality. These three keep incarnating with each other UNTIL one or all, raises their resonance into compassion for the self, and leave their dark cycle of entrainment minus drama, blame, judgement or punishment.
The enlightened witness digs around asking probing questions, trying to help these three understand their personal cycle or feedback loops. Exploring the causes and effects of their cruelty, violence and wounding experienced and delivered back and forth to each other and those entrained with them.
Your higher self can be most helpful and informative, when you ask clear single questions. One clear simple question at a time. Ask for a slideshow or youtube or an awareness of the original incident when you consciously chose to force and control or withheld what was needed and abandoned them. Ask for details.
SIDE BAR; many say, “others don’t listen to them.” BUT what they mean is that they want others to DO things the way they want it done. They don’t care or want to accept gracefully that the other person chooses NOT to do things their way.
Quantum Law of PENETRATION, deep listening or mindfulness says anything seen with great quality of attention and knowing creates compassion.
REALIZATION is a compassionate ACTION.
As you stay conscious and focused in the present, your electromagnetic energy field can open up to higher frequencies to create synergistic cooperation with your consciousnesses. Synergies naturally attract higher frequency energy, wisdom and compassion changing the energy signatures of all parties during their engagement with each other. Increasing the “Aha’s” and compassionate awareness and ACTION.
YOU are your CREATOR!
Create your own grace with your compassionate point of perception, intent and thought patterns about you and for you.
Another can hold a safe space for you, without judgment, blame, shame, guilt, shunning, attachment, punishment, competition, worship, retribution, secrets or lies.
BUT CANNOT gift you with the compassion you NEED to gift yourself with.