Operates on the belief that everyone’s agenda is to force or control them.
If another is friendly or kind to the fearful one, they are “setting the fearful one up” to take something from them. When you are friendly or kind to a fearful one, they are sure you are PLAYING THEM, deceiving and manipulating them. There is no way to breach, break or rupture the fearful one’s defenses or the limits and restrictions they have placed on themself to protect themself from use and abuse. They won’t engage or fall for your tricks to wound and abandon them.
They don’t know when or how, but they KNOW you will wound and abandon them! A fearful one has shut down their skill or ability to be RATIONAL or LOGICAL and have stopped discerning if a person, especially themself, is trustworthy. They have decided that no one, is to be trusted.
All compassion or kindness is a red flag, a warning and trick!
It’s not IF a person is trustworthy and kind. It is HOW and WHEN they will hurt and abandon me. There is no rational argument or logical evidence you can present that will change their willingness or elevate their fear enough to engage honestly with you or anyone else. Evidence and logic seldom moves a fearful one into, running the risk of trusting another person or even themself.
The fearful one is lonely and alone because people stop trying to engage with them. Even when logic and all the evidence indicates another person is trustworthy. The “fearful one” is unable to believe or accept that. Fearful one’s will twist things and provoke the other to PROVE they will not hurt or abandon them to the point that the person leaves to save themself from the fearful one’s abuses, lack of logic and rational thought. Fearful one’s are impossible to interact with rationally.
You CAN’T prove something to one that refuses logic and rational thought?
Some nutty BELIEFS fearful one’s hold;
“I need to be punished, I am bad and worthless.” If no one is going to hate and punish me, I’ll just have to do it myself!
”I can’t survive being wounded or abandoned.” Check to see if you are still alive and if you are, that should be evidence enough that you can and DID survive.
Ultimately it seems that the “fearful one” doesn’t trust themself, their judgement and their ability to survive being wounded or abandoned. They have carried these low slow resonances, intents, misdirection and thinking, that KEEP ON attracting TO the “fearful one” MORE of the same energy of fear and inability to be rational and logical.
GUESS WHO is responsible for your compassion and kindness?
Have you abandoned yourself and are blaming others for abandoning you, using your “lack of logic” and inability to be rational in evaluating the evidence available to you, to discern who is the untrustworthy and with what.
Fearful one, YOU need to be responsible for NOT abandoning you!
YOU need to be compassionate and kind to you, which is a MUCH higher resonance and thought pattern that will attract more agreeable encounters with others. Your soul is infinite so you know it will survive and can even thrive if things turn disagreeable when you take responsibility for you instead of YOU TRYING to force the responsibility for you on other Dark One’s that DO use, lie and abuse each other.
That is their main game.
If you aren’t being compassionate with you that is the game you are playing. YOU CREATOR, create your own grace with your compassionate point of perception, intent and thought patterns about you and for you.
Another can hold a safe space for you!
Without judgment, blame, shame, shunning, agenda, attachment, punishment, guilt, competition, worshipping, retribution, humiliation, secrets or lies.
BUT CANNOT gift you with the compassion you NEED to gift yourself with.