OR a one-sided, deeply strained dynamic.
When one person carries most of the emotional, physical, or financial weight.
When one gives support, compassion and attention, and receives indifference, criticism, or silence. One makes the major decisions and dictates the terms. One feels anxious, depleted and invisible or worthless. Feeling drained rather than energized, bitterness and suppression of feelings or opinions to keep the peace and avoid upset.
Unbalanced interactions aren’t a relationship or healthy, one is servicing or forcing or being serviced or forced or it is a quid pro quo contract or agreement. Commerce and marriage have been legal contracts historically.
Purpose of ANY healthy partnership is to support each other in becoming more of who they are in an atmosphere of equality, safety and trust. When different preferences or conflict appear, the people in the relationship need to find ways to maintain a balance of equals OR dissolve the relationship when one side doesn’t want the best for themself AND the other!
Consider the personality you project out into your reality.
Quantum Principle of PROJECTION says your outer world is a mirror of your inner state. Your INTERNAL point of perception and personal story, thought, intent, emotion, what you judge, praise, or react to projects your beliefs, fears, and desires onto people, situations and events around you.
Law of ATTRACTION electromagnetically pulls togethermatching resonances.
Law of ENTRAINMENT combines different resonances into one.
Your strong emotional reaction to another’s reaction, will point out to YOU, any unresolved issues, not resolved by you yet. Traits you dislike in yourself are easy to spot and criticize in others. Looking at what upsets you in others, is a clue to what upsets you, about you.
Fixing your inner wounds raises your resonance. Higher resonances are kinder compassionate realities of other like minded ones that feed their mind and intentions with neutral or positive thoughts and intent.
Maybe, you are attracted to people that have the same look and characteristics of your predator that groomed you, feeding you the illusion of being seen, accepted and loved, while setting you up to be exploited. Exploitation was the resonance and feedback loop, you resonated at and you attracted to you. You were seeking someone to be responsible for you. In turn you would find others to groom for you to exploit.
You may be feeding a cycle where all parties hold the same illusion — that they really DID see, accept and loved you, and you them, you moved into the “confused innocent in denial” about the truth of the abuses, GIVEN and TAKEN, as truly caring.
“Victims” in the victim predator feedback loop are not willing to let go of their illusions delusions, which trigger their; fight “tit for tat,” flight, freeze, or sacrifice the self reaction to please their bully, predator or victimizer. They use and abuse or reject the self, before it’s done to them and then feel entitled to use and abuse or reject others.
WE attract what we are being and doing.
Making amends to a Dark One is not really possible. They are incapable of perceiving it and use any gift as an opportunity to suck the life, light and energy OUT of the giver, if YOU allow that to happen, you feed the dark your consciousness.
Dark eventually, and light thoughts and intent’s immediately, DO boomerang back to their sender and creator. Repeated FORGIVENESS by a victim for the same crime is giving a predator consent to continue their mistreatment.