When someone doesn’t want you or what you have to offer.
It is one of the hardest but most freeing lessons in life to believe people the first time they show or tell you they don’t want you or what you have to offer. As someone pulls away, trying to convince them of your worth or value or need. Your denial and refusal to accept and honor what they want. Generally costs you your peace, energy, time and self-respect.
Then comes the search for “what is wrong with me.”
Instead of knowing, I Exist As I Am
Walt Whitman captured this perfectly in Song of Myself when he wrote, “I exist as I am, that is enough”. Owning your identity and our mass consciousness with all its quirks and imperfections, is the ultimate form of self-compassion and unconditional love.
Logic and reason need to win out. Connection can’t be forced and people-pleasing cannot make someone choose you if they aren’t capable of it or just don’t want too. Relationships that aren’t reciprocated and you forcing them, often lead to anxiety, self-doubt, pain and suffering. Do you want that to be your conscious choice?
Honor you and quantum laws of give and receive only compassion.
Law of ALLOWING others their path without your demands, theft or neediness.
Law of PENETRATION anything deeply seen and known creates compassion.
Treat their decision as final and stop waiting around for clarity or a change of heart, those wishes, thoughts and your ambiguity stagnates you alone, feeding your denial and tantrum that reality needs to be what you want.
When you resonate with neediness that is what you will find all around you in your reality. People that really believe ANOTHER needs to give them their value or worth by serving or tolerating them.
Focus on compassion and self care for you. You didn’t loose something you had, your wishes and illusions did not manifest BECAUSE they were not compassionate. Dwelling in rejection is a distraction from you loving and accepting you and all your neutral and positive qualities designed to solve the challenges you and your higher self created to grow and develop your consciousness.
Your illusion of potential and your focus on who you hope or wish they could be to or for you, rather than accepting what their actions and words are telling you, that YOU have been deselected, do they need to attack you to prove it to you? Occasional warmth, when they need or want something sends mixed signals designed to trick you into holding onto hope, even when the overall pattern is rejection. They taunt for their amusement and illusion of powerfulness.
Being rejected spikes stress, making you “try harder” and obsessively focus on them in an attempt to “fix” the outcome to please you. The response is similar to our automatic stimulus responses to trauma of fight, flight, freeze (stagnate) or sacrifice the self. Is that what you want your conscious choice to be? And you wonder why earth’s resonance has been quarantined.