When you are “polite” or “nice” and it’s not returned. And you are ignored or rejected with any number of verbal abuses. Do you have enough compassion for you to allow others to react the way they choose without you choosing to judge yourself or them based on their reaction, beliefs or issues?
Are you ready to release YOUR need for others to prove you have value, worth?
No one needs to be nice or polite to you because you were nice to them. The one receiving “you’re nice” does not need to return your nice in kind. Unless being a bully is your goal. Perceiving the self as wounded or victimized, does not justify your need to throw a “pity party” for you. The intentional, often self-indulgent, period of wallowing in self-pity, sadness, perceived unfairness, misfortune or you seeking to be noticed and gather some sympathy.
Aha! but, a structured pity party can actually be a healthy way to acknowledge and process negative emotions suffering or pain. Process, don’t just rant, reflect on why you are upset, to reach a point of clarity. Its compassionate and wise of you to allow the other their path without your neediness, demands or taking care of you.
Law of ALLOWING others their path without your demands, theft or neediness.
Not allowing others their path and choice, is YOU not being compassionate or kind to either of you. It is you trying to make others do what you want. Always you get to choose to avoid interacting with them and they with you. All parties in a meeting or synchronicity choose how they will interact with the other ones involved. You may need to keep recalibrating your thoughts to the changes that are continuously in flow now.
Elevated frequencies of thought and intentions DO NOT judge, blame, punish or choose to feel victimized, they wait for the other one to figure it out and gather their wisdom at their pace, especially since that is all they will actually adopt and do.
Questioning the self and others does prompt answers!
Speaking your truth clearly and honestly increases your authenticity, compassion and balance. Don’t restrict yourself when you are speaking to create a necessary boundary for you. Speaking your truth comes naturally with practice, kindness lacking judgement, punishment, dismissiveness or negativity.
Humanities unpleasant events, interactions and dark feedback loops will always have a combination of positive and negative outcomes without resolution because Dark Ones lack acceptance, forgiveness, awareness, compassion and balance. Hurting, wounding or punishing the one, you perceive, didn’t give you what YOU WANT is just escalating your real or imagined wounds and fears to avoid accepting that, YOU need to be the accepting and compassionate one with you. It’s not someone else’s job.
Principle of GRACE is you are your creator and the giver of grace TO you!
We can’t change events after they happen, but we can change our reaction to events and people NOW. LISTEN closely to get clarity, then choose the next step for you. When all are conscious and calm you have the option to ask them, to tell you the WHY in detail. Listen without interruption or giving your advice unless requested.
Notice when the one you are talking to has relocated their awareness away from you. Stop talking, save your energy and honor their choice not to hear or process what you want them too. You are not their keeper. Giving your advice or lecture unsolicited, implies, “I know it, and you don’t.” The ONLY one that can MAKE you feel accepted and valued is you! Your focus on others to worship or follow them or you, is feeding them your energy, and or you are sucking the life out of them. Is that what you want?