High activity is not productivity or compassionate.
“I really like being with you, it makes me feel good.”
“I want to do thing’s with you, whatever you want to do.”
“Yes, my family members never really had time to spend with me, as a child and as an adult, they were very busy working and doing other things.”
Tell me how did knowing they were “too busy for you” make you feel?
Put your hand on your heart and SENSE, FEEL how that felt.
I ask, because, knowing someone is “too busy” for you, often evokes painful feelings of being ignored, undervalued and unimportant. To lessen the wounding, pain and insecurity about their value one feels, they learn to distance themself emotionally when they can’t physically get away.
To protect the self worth, one might feel resentment, lonely and the infinite soul might consciously, decide, even as a fetus, to avoid closeness and intimacy because being undervalued and unable to trust a “too busy” one that says things they will not and cannot deliver doesn’t feel safe or good. Being busy themself or dissociated or numb actually feels SAFER than risking more rejection from ones that do not trust or feel safe with themself.
You realize you are powerless to change the “too busy” one and you victimize yourself BECAUSE you didn’t choose to have compassion for you by walking away!
The “too busy” cycle perpetuates itself until one consciously actively leaves it.
Allowing them their choices without you begging them for what they DO NOT have to gift you with.
Many interpret “too busy” as a polite way of saying you are not a priority, signals that they are placing higher value on other, sometimes trivial, activities that are not you. Like, picking lint out of one’s navel. A self compassionate person would look elsewhere to connect with another. Consistent patterns of being “too busy” can lead you to realize you are actively being avoided. Have you showered lately?
How we spend our time is ALWAYS a choice of what our priorities are. Is always being busy a red flag? YES, a significant red flag in dating and all other relationships, indicating a lack of interest, commitment, or poor prioritization.
Have you adopted the pattern of being “too busy” for others?
Being consciously compassionately focused on your thoughts and intentions, opens up your electromagnetic energy field to higher frequencies carrying more information and history about your wounds that you are not aware of, and wisdom you haven’t put into practice yet. Creating a synergistic cooperation with your higher self’s stream of consciousness might facilitate your movement out of your stubborn, stagnant created by fear stuck areas. Synergies attract energy, wisdom and compassion that change the energy signatures of all parties during their engagement with each other.
Conscious penetration enables and facilitates one to consciously, sincerely forgive and accept the self “as is” without blame, abuse, judgement, force, control or punishment for our perceived mistakes, large and small, misdirection or unkindness and is critical to building our sense of well-being, worth, safety and trust. Inability to forgive and accept the self is linked to suicide attempts, eating and drugging disorders among other dysfunctions, like being too busy.