Spiritual questions and answers may be simple and sound easy, but the simple answers like “love and nurture yourself” are multifaceted because our life experiences have not engendered or encouraged, kindness, compassion and acceptance of the self, just as you are, without judgment, blame or punishment.
You are, what you have to work with.
A complex answer is a detailed response that may have many parts that need more explanation, thought or time to unfold, understand and are in a continuous flow of transitions of cause and effect.
Dark Ones, the unconscious lost ones and those that choose to worry about what and who, they can’t and don’t control. CHOOSE to distract themselves from doing constructive, compassionate thinking, intention and actions. Operating under the delusion illusion that drama, competition, game playing and sucking up to a bully and sucking the life out of each other, is the way to go.
What you consciously focus on, the meaning and intention you give it, creates your reality and the FREQUENCY of the feedback loops or cycles you put into play and experience lifetime after lifetime with your infinite soul, closely matching each others intent, frequency or resonance. The two of you receive “like energy and intention” to the energy emanated out. If that energy is a lie, fake, forced or mean spirited that is the frequency that you will attract and entrain with coming back to you both.
Law of CONSCIOUSNESS, YOU must consciously make your choices because you ARE personally responsible to create, maintain and transmute them.
Law of ATTRACTION attractslike energy, intent and resonance to yours.
Law of ENTRAINMENT is when two or more resonances, realities or thoughts exist in the same space, they MUST and will combine to create a SINGLE resonance.
Law of ALLOWING others their path without your demands and neediness.
Would it make any rational sense for you to demand, seek or expect acceptance, compassion or kindness from someone that doesn’t even LIKE themselves and does not trust themselves or anyone else? When YOU ask, demand or wait for acceptance, compassion or kindness from one incapable of giving it to themselves, HOW logical, rational or self defeating are you being? They, the dark lost ones, have no concept of what you want, let alone having the ability to GIFT it to you! Dark lost ones are self absorbed with their body needs and wants, your needs, wants and expectations are not even on their radar.
And EXPECTING another to be responsible for you is not aligned with the law of allowing. So whom is being unreasonable, insensitive, illogical and irrational?
Are YOU setting up a feedback loop or cycle of demands and expectations that can’t, won’t and should not be gifted to you?
You are YOUR responsibility!
To compound your irrational thinking you complain and blame the one that can’t, won’t and it is NOT their responsibility to be responsible for your kind compassionate, acceptance of you! When dark lost ones don’t get what they expect others to gift them they BLAME! Each other, supreme beings, pets, objects, but never the self.
The issue my dear, is YOU ARE THE ONE THAT DOESN’T accept, nurture, care for and accept YOU. You own what another(s) says and thinks about you, and you have consciously chosen to believe them and ABANDONED you and your worth, care taking and value. You are thinking, waiting, actually demanding, that your parent, significant other, child, friend or stranger be loving and accepting of you before you are willing and able to be loving and accepting of you.
The positive strokes you get that are true and valuable you fail to accept and own or believe, your focus and repetition is on what you didn’t get from another. That’s not their job, it’s your job! Compassion and acceptance is a gift you need to give to yourself. You can’t gift another with what you lack and haven’t created or understood for yourself yet.
Irrational and illogical thoughts and beliefs are just more misdirections we have passed down to each other for generations and many multiple incarnations. That we can and should force, trick, pay for or manipulate each other to get OUR needs, wants, and acceptance met by someone else. Instead of being responsible for meeting our own needs and accepting us as we are.
My favorite irrational demand is — he, she, it or they, OWE me!
WHY? And how do you “squeeze blood out of a turnip?”
Force, control, deception, paying for it, suffering for it, or demanding IT! Will NEVER get you what you want from one that does NOT have it to give. All you will get is frustrated, angry and vengeful, like many of the 3D / 4D gods, dictators and bullies gift us with, their worst characteristics. A person that hates themself cannot give you compassion or self acceptance or even self hate, if you want to get real. Your self hate, guilt or shame would be something you chose to own and dwell in, and how helpful has that been for you and those you interact with? Possibly you can force gifts and attention or “a good fake performance,” but that will never be satisfactory to you because it won’t change what you feel about you. You will continue to be frustrated, unpleasant, nasty and unsatisfied.
The compassion, kindness and acceptance we all seek can only be given by ourself to ourself. Just as those that hate, reject, flagellate and punish the self have created and sustained that thinking for them self.
You consciously choose or unconsciously allow another to choose for you. When you adopt and implement the other’s choice, you OWN it, become responsible for it!